Personal Balance Is A Choice
Posted on : 16-06-2010 | By : DrDivad | In : Self Help
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To be in balance…wouldn’t it be fantastic if we could all find that one perfect state of beingness where everything was in order? If finding balance was even half that simple we would be fortunate. The reason why finding balance in our lives is so tough is that balance itself implies constant movement. Even when we think we are balanced, we have to continually shift our weight and attention to maintain it.
“Finding balance is not a goal to be achieved. It is a continuous movement of creating more options, re-evaluating priorities, clarifying values, and making a commitment to what makes you feel most alive.” (Dieter Pauwels)
In our fast paced world, our commitments, schedules, to-do lists, appointments, voice mails and e-mails often have us whirling out of control. We have put ourselves into a reactive state with no room or possibility to take a breath, find our personal fulcrum, and perch ourselves atop of it.
What you could do to regain a sense of balance is re-channel your reactive responses into purposeful conduct. Because balance is dynamic, it can only exist in the midst of action.The actions you choose must follow a certain rhythm designed to bring you closer to balance, rather than take you away from it or move you right through it.
What keeps us from achieving a more balanced life style is our struggle with the conflicting demands placed on us at work and at home. Our desire to live a more balanced lifeThis visceral work-life balance seems to elude many of us despite our intuitive need to capture it. Imbalance is a prime source of tension and stress. When those negative emotions are introduced, our productivity at work suffers, our personal sense of well being suffers, and a downward spiral results.
To stop this destructive cycle and avoid it from commencing again, requires making a strong and resolute decision to findrediscover) your balance and then putting together a specific plan to get there. Your plan is yours alone. Balance is a deeply personal experience. For some it means slowing down and for others it means getting into the fast lane. Attaining a sense of balance starts with recognizing that you have choices. When you surrender your choice you also surrender your sense of balance, and with it, the possibility of fulfillment.
Whatever your personal balance looks like you must undertstand that it is not static. It takes a determined effort to achieve balance and an equally rigorous effort to maintain it. Once you decide to orchestrate balance in your life, consider the following life coaching questions from a personal life coach.
Your answers will guide you on your long lasting journey.
- What are the situations in your life that are causing me to have stress, anxiety, and pressure?
- When do I tell myself things like, “It’s out of my control”, “That’s just the way it is”, or “I have no other choice?”
- Is there one belief I am holding onto that prevents me experiencing more balance?
- Am I holding onto a sense of responsibility and responsibility to something that is no longer good for you or productive?
- Am I trying to please others and in the process sacrificing my own needs?
- What choices am I making that keep me from a balanced life?
- If I were to experience more balance what would I be doing more of? Less of?
- If my life were more balanced what would I be feeling and thinking?
The incentives to choose a balanced life are plentifulnumerous) – less stress and tension, more personal joy, a greater sense of control, improved performance in all areas of life, and a deeper inner serenity are just some of the offshoots of a balanced existence. Consider the following steps to start living a more balanced life:
First, accept that it is through your choices that you become balanced or imbalanced. Second, acknowledge that your quest for balance never ends; it simply takes different courses and shapes throughout your life. Continue on your journey now by deciding to say yes to the things in your life that make you feel most alive, and no to the things that deplete you.
